“If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!”
– Rudyard Kipling
(excerpts from the poem IF)

I read this poem on the insistence of my father. He was very inspired by the lines and would often quote them to my younger sister and me. During his tough times he had taken a print out of the poem and had pasted it in his room. It was as if this poem would give him the strength to go on  despite the challenges life presented. He told both my sister and me to look into this poem beyond it’s words and understand it for its essence. As kids, we just listened but never understood the poem. Today I understand that Dad wanted to make both me and my sister a better and stronger person (as the poem puts it – a Man). Some might argue that this is a very gender specific poem. But Dad always said that the reference to “a Man” or “my son” is not to a specific gender. It is for all human being to encourage them to be a better person.

I lost Dad last year. A lot changed in the last year, and I have been trying to adorn this huge responsibility that Dad left on us. Trying to face life with a smile on my face and not give up even when all is lost. People are not easy and life is not pleasant or kind. There will always be those who will doubt you and blame you. Life will also not show you kindness, but there is so much more that is waiting to happen. So I will not lose my optimism and smile. One day my life too would end, but when I meet my Dad again I want him to tell me that he is proud of me. This is my father’s legacy and I will live by it and be the Man (or better.. the Woman) my father wanted me to be.

Shirt and Waistcoat – Flicked from husband’s wardrobe
Jeans – Levis
Brogues – Zara

Outfit Inspiration: Gender is basically a biological attribute. There is a man and a woman in all. To think of one gender as the weaker sex is a bias I am totally against. Some think that I am feminist but actually I am a humanist. I feel that we should respect and treat everyone equal regardless of gender. There are men I know who are very emotional and woman who are physically very strong.  Woman today are financially independent and Men are capable of taking care of the house. So typecasting someone is unfair.  I have worn my husbands shirt and waistcoat with my skinny jeans and brogue shoes. I have tried conveying that while I am all about makeup and decking up – I also am capable of wearing the pants (or in this case the shirt and waistcoat) in the family. Today a family is about two equal individuals sharing the burdens (financial and non financial). Noone is dependent on the other in any way other than the love that they share for each other.

Ok honestly tell me – did you like this post and the outfit inspiration? Or was it too heavy? Tell me!


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